Making the first move
for a girl can be scary! If you want to know what to text a guy you like,
you’ve come to the right place. Here’s all you need.
Gone are the days of
waiting for a man to approach you and make a move. Women are becoming more and
more confident in their abilities to ask a man out when they want to. Women are
the ones making all the first moves nowadays and I have to say, it rocks!
However, even if you’re
a confident woman that has the guts to make the first move, it can still be
kind of scary. Something that makes this a lot easier is doing it over a text
message. While some people may be against this, I’m not.
What to text a guy you
have your sights set on
With texting becoming
the primary means of conversing with someone, it only makes sense for you to
make your move via texting – especially if the two of you already have a nice
dynamic going. But the trouble is finding just what to say so he knows how you
feel without scaring him away.
Rules of texting.
It might seem like you
should be able to just text them whatever you want whenever you want, but there
are some unspoken rules of texting a guy that you should know about before
diving in for the first move.
1. Never send multiple
unanswered texts.
Nothing screams
“CLINGY” like sending text after text when he hasn’t even replied yet. I get
that you’re eager to talk to him because you like him, but this makes you look
desperate.
2. Never text him after
12am.
Some people may know of
these other unspoken rules, but this one might be new to you. I say you should
never text a guy after 12am because most guys take that as a booty call sign –
something you most definitely don’t want to be seen as if you’re looking to
date him.
3.No love- making
talk
You can most definitely
be flirty and fun without having to talk about sex with a guy. While you may
get his attention this way, it will be the wrong type of attention overall and
you won’t have a good chance of actually dating him.
4.When he says he has
to go, don’t text him.
This is a big mistake
that most girls make and it comes off super clingy in the eyes of a guy. When
he says he has to do something and can’t talk anymore, don’t send him texts
while he’s away. If he has his phone on him, it’ll be really annoying and if he
doesn’t, it’ll be overwhelming when he finally does look at his phone.
5.Don’t let the
conversation die.
Conversations that go
flat quickly never result in a good relationship. In order to text a guy when
you want to make the first move, you have to keep the conversation lively, but
never forced. Think of topics to talk about and if you find something he seems
chatty about, stick to it for a while.
Now, what to text a
guy.
1.I’ve got two tickets
to this amazing concert. Are you busy this weekend? If you really want to go
for a fun first date and feel pretty good about your chances of him saying yes,
then go with this text. You don’t have to say that you specifically bought the
tickets for the two of you, but just saying that you have two and asking if
he’s free during the concert time makes him aware of the fact that you like
him.
2.Hey, what do you say
you and I go out tonight? This text is particularly useful when he says he
doesn’t have any plans for the night or even if he says his plans fell through.
It might be last minute, but if he already planned on going out, he should be
up for it.
3.I like you. Let’s get
coffee sometime. Straight and to the point. A direct approach is never a bad
idea when texting a guy when you want to make the first move. Honestly, I think
most guys like it better this way – or so they’ve all told me. It takes the
guesswork out of the whole thing and flatters them, too.
4.You know, I think we
would have a lot of fun together. This one is a little more vague and works
especially well for shy people who feel confident that the guy also likes them.
It’s not outright asking him on a date, but it is putting the notion out there
that you’d like to go on a date given the opportunity. The ball is now in his
court.
5.You’re a lot of fun
through texting, but how much fun are you in person? Guys are competitive
creatures. If you hit him with this text, it’ll seem like that much more of a
challenge for him. He’ll definitely want to prove to you that he IS just as fun
in person and you’ll get a date!
6.There really isn’t
anyone else that I like talking to this much. This is a really sweet text that
will definitely make him smile. Not only will he be flattered, but he’ll also
get the hint that you’re into him. Hopefully he’ll feel the same way and this text
gives him the opportunity he needs to ask you out.
7.So, there’s this
party I got invited to but I think it’s going to be pretty lame. Do you want to
come with me so at least there’s one fun person to hang out with? It may seem
counterproductive to ask someone to go with you to a “lame” party, however,
this really does work. You’re flattering this guy by not only inviting him, but
also saying that he’ll be the only fun person at a lame party. It gives him
incentive to go and you’re also revealing how much you like him.
8.What do you say we
take this great conversation out to eat? If you two are having a really great
conversation and you’d rather be in person, just send him this text. As long as
he’s not busy and you could be ready pretty quickly, this is a perfect way to
go from texting to in person easily and without too much hassle.
9.You know what, let’s
go out sometime. I think it would be a blast. Another very direct approach that
doesn’t put too much pressure on a guy. When you’re having a fun conversation
with him, just throw this in mid-conversation. You’re clearly stating that you
would like to go out with him, but by avoiding the word “date” you’re making it
less formal and easier for him to agree to.
Knowing what to text a
guy can be one of the hardest things to do.
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